Disillusioned...
At times, Miss Juneberry really feels that she is too friendly.. being friendly doesn't pay especially others do not appreciate it... this is not a conclusion from a single encounter.. but that of many events..Sometimes.. when you treat a person as a good friend .. he/she may not feel the same way about you.. there are things that if it is in your position, you will choose to do it just for his/her sake.. but when it is in his/her position.. they don't think you are worth it... wth
Sometimes, you ask a friend an innocent question.. for example.. just to see if she is still at a certain place just so you can go home with him/her... the person will view the question in the worse light possible... i.e. you wanna burden him/her with more tasks... wth
And of course the age-old backstabbing. In uni.. Miss Juneberry doesn't know if she is a victim of this.. but she won't wanna find out.. cos an episode in an earlier part of yours truly's life .. backstabbing by a person that she views as VERY GOOD friend (at least in Juneberry's view)..
So.. if anyone is bad-mouthing yours truly.. by all means .. do continue. The purpose of this para is not to stop you.. she just hope that you dun let her find out.. spare her the heart pain yar..
(not implying anything here.. dun think too much)
Is this just Miss Juneberry's problem.. that she comes across as being a bad person?? wth
Will strive to be much less amiable..
pardon the use of expletives.. and the bad English
posted by juneberry @ Saturday, April 09, 2005
18 Comments:
wow... 2 post in such a short time and the posts are stark contrast of one another..... well, it's just part n parcel of life... everyone has different expectations of a fren... but maybe u can ask urself a question.. If someone dun do sth for u.. is he/she still a fren? as for the backstabbing part... i think it happens every now n then.. esp in the real world... just be yourself (ok.. for politically correct reason.. sometimes u have to fake it a little la.. )anyway... all of the above is just some of my tots.. nth worth dwelling on i suppose... read, think a bit, laugh and go back to study ya!! haha...
Good friends are hard to come by. Sometimes, it might be just small misunderstanding. And, talkin behind your back may not mean backstabbing... ? Anyway good friends will enjoy some gossip bout each other, you might want to view it with a lighter heart? Keep smiling la, looks much better than when you frown leh. lol
aiyoh....who dare to bully our dear miss juneberry? hm...
i sorta agree with the person posting the previous comment...it might be a misunderstanding u know...i mean ur friend might not really mean it...she might be doing something or something might have happened that result in her not having a good mood...so became easily irritated?
not trying to help the person by finding excuses here...just that i'm like this sometimes too...but dun really mean it...the impt thing is that how long have u known ur friend and how well do u know him/her? is he/her really such a person?
we all have different expectations of friends sometimes....u may expect more from friend A and less from friend B...therefore when that friend doesn't meet ur expectation, u'll become sad and disappointed....u wish for the friend to treat u the same way u treat her...
i used to think this way till recently i realised that friendship shldn't be about balancing the giving and receiving....if u treat the person as a friend, u wouldn't mind giving without getting the same amt in return...
of course...its different for everyone and saying is easier than actuall doing it...=p
Firstly, I wanna say a very big THANK YOU my friends - blackice, anonymous, siwen, sin and jings for bothering to leave a message for me despite the upcoming exams.
To blackice:
of course.. i dun measure my friends by the things we do for each other.. but dun you think that for certain basic stuffs.. stuffs that even acquaintances will do for each other.. ju2 shou3 zhi1 lao2 (literally: as easy as just raising a hand).. e.g.. dropping something for you on their way to somewhere or just waiting for you before going of for a meal..
If people you perceive as very good friends are not even willing to do that for you.. wouldn't you feel that you are not that important to them as you think you are?? in other words, you see them as best of friends.. when in fact, they dun treat you so..
to anonymous:
Hi there!! nice of you to drop me a msg.. i guess you must noe me well.. ahhaha.. if not you wouldn't know me and siwen and also suan1 me at the same time.. are you sonia?? if not, please enlighten.. ahaha .. thanx!
what i was talking abt.. hmmnn strictly speaking.. isn't really backstabbing.. which is more applicable to the working world.. but it is definitely more than just gossipping.. i dun mind gossipping.. 'cos i am also a big gossipper...
what i was referring to is more than gossiping.. i shall decline to comment more here on my blog.. you never know who might be reading this.. but i have valid reasons for saying this... if you are interested to know.. you can ask me personally. ;)
to siwen:
hahah.. actually i told you before of my previous episode.. maybe you have forgotten or something.. i am most willing to refresh your memory.. but not here on my blog..
what i was talking about stretched over a long period (if you remember).. definitely not just because he/she was having a bad day.. unless he/she.. was having a long PMS period (according to researchers.. guys also experience something like PMS every month.. ahahah just sharing a small trivia here)..
ok.. as for expectation.. i do agree with what you say.. but there is a Degree to which people falling short of your expectation you are willing to tolerate... beyond which.. you start doubting your relationship.. for more elaborations.. refer to my reply to blackice.
to sin and jins:
refer to my tagboard! =)
i guess "strive to be less amiable" doesn't really express what i really wanna say..
should have said:
"shall not be so naive to think that everyone will treat you well as long as you treat them well.. shall not treat everyone as your very good friend..."
well... it seems kinda disappointing to have such situations... but i guess maybe certain frenships just dun stay the same.. with time, ppl's interest may change and ppl will have different priorities... it's never easy to maintain a solid frenship.... watever happens, dun think too much about it becoz u alone won't change anything.. cheer up ya! there are much more things worth ur attention than this.... ^_^
Looks like you cooled off quite abit. Ha ha, thats good. Especially with exams round the corner.
Not sure who sonia is, I'm just an acquaintance who happened to be nosing around and reading your blogs. =P And since I'm just an acquaintance, I guess you wouldn't be too comfortable with me making comments on your personal issues. And I am being myself when I "suan" ppl, but I also wouldn't do that if you know my identity. So I shall remain anonymous for now.
Yea, so my comments are really just in general, on the surface, from what i read. Hope you'll sort things out soon.
oh I wasn't refering to you when i said "you never know who might be reading this" .. i am just worried that the person i was talking abt reads my blog that's all =)
since i blog.. by that very fact, i will not feel uncomfortable with people whom i am not familiar with reading my blog... hahaha.. so you dun need to worry abt anything..
i welcome comments !!! :]
but i really wanna know who you are leh!! can give hints or not?
have a feeling that you are a girl.
have a feeling is a he...haha...secret admirer?? hehheh...
anyway yeah...pls refresh my memory next time when we study together...as u know...old ppl tend to be forgetful....hahaha....=p
oh.. if anon's a guy, that's sad.. cos he sure sounds like a girl..
and i have so many admirers.. boys and girls, young and old.. i am not surprised..
wahahhahaha
*puke puke* (there goes my dinner)
rp: I sound like a girl meh?
Is it becuz I'm nosey (bad) or is it becuz I am in touch with the sensitive side (good)? Well, the truth is, guys can exhibit those two characteristics too. ha ha. Btw, your feeling is wrong this time.
sw: i can't possibily secretly admire everyone who I post comment for their blog la. Makes me sound so 花心. So must make it clear, I am not her secret admirer. (no implied meanings or whatsoever... heh)
Anonymous is just another nick bah, and it is more mysterious and fun. Revealing my identity takes the fun outta it for sure. I can anticipate the "Oh.. its u, er, where did I get to know you?" kinda reaction. ha ha.
Okay la, give you big clue, I'm from NTU and its 17 days and counting down to my last paper in school. heh heh. study hard ppl.
i dun believe you
you are yuting?
suddenly very suspicious..
our mutual friend is a guy right.. somebody quite "close" to me....
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botanically speaking, a prune is a plum, but not all plums can become prunes. a fresh plum is known as the prune-plum. juneberry is neither a prune nor plum. but if juneberry is not careful, and continue to be so suspicious and curious, she may end up being in a box of sunsweet dried plums or in a bottle of sunraysia prune juice too. =P
sounds threatening hor? hee hee. no la, i m not yuting (er who is that?) hmmm, mutual friends got guys and girls lo. not sure which one is close to u... told u acquaintance liao, i don't know much bout yer...
hey! i'm curious too! who r u?? i can't think of anyone who knows both of us leh.... r u the same person who left a msg on my blog??
hm...the only thing i'm sure of u're not jack...coz the language usage is diff...ahhahaa
yea... jack sounds more like a guy.. albeit a hum sup guy...
and his singrish .. although what he talked abt is not funny, when you imagine his funny face saying it.. in his very funny voice.. it's very.. well.. funny.
wahhahahahahaa
haha...yeah...agree...not to mention his 3 moles...haha...
oops...we're toking behind his back...sshh....
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